REJECTION
A Research Paper Presented to
The Faculty of English Resource Center
School of Multimedia Arts
Asia Pacific College
Magallanes,Makati
In Partia Fulfillment
of the Requirements for the Course
ERESWRITE- Research Writing
In Partia Fulfillment
of the Requirements for the Course
ERESWRITE- Research Writing
Kurt Von Matthew P, Franuca
April 2014
In the article "Consequences of Peer Rejection," J. L. Cook discusses how peer rejection could have a massive impact on the adolescents life, especially if the rejection the adolescent encounters causes him some humiliation. The article also discusses some of the more extreme consequences of social rejection, which include school shootings.
Cook says, "Peer rejection is a powerful force in adolescent life, especially when the person being rejected is also ridiculed, harassed, or bullied. Although rejection leads to murder and suicide only in rare instances, it is associated with countless other acts of lesser violence, delinquency, isolation, and loneliness" (http://www.education.com/reference/article/consequences-peer-rejection/).
Rejection can also be a traumatic experience, and is, in fact a very common phobia. People are afraid to be judged, and in extreme cases a person's anxiety about how other people perceive him can be debilitating.
In the article, "Phobias: The rationale behind irrational fears," Dean Burnett discusses the influence and impact of this fear on human beings. He says, “The fear of rejection or judgement from others is a powerful force for humans; much of how we think and behave is calibrated around the views and behaviours of others" (http://www.theguardian.com/science/brain-flapping/2013/jun/28/phobias-rationale-irrational-fears).
It explains that people who had sensed fear of being rejected can cause them emotional pain like being punch on the face. If fear of rejection continues to develop, it might be possible that a person can gain more depression and get the result of misbehavior. People who had fear in rejection are being irrational of why they fear rejection. The reason for that is they sense that they are going to be rejection before it will happen to them.
Rejection can be also cause us emotional stress to us like breaking up with a relationship partner, being an outcast in a group of friends and other situations. Rejection can give emotional stress because we tolerate disappointment, depression and distress.
In this article "The Science Behind Why Rejection Hurts So Damn Much." This article tells about that rejection is strong intense of pain that the rejected will experience fear, disappointment,depression and distress. It can also give illness that will affect to the heart muscles because of the pressure. It also tells about that the for reason why rejection hurt so much because most people need it for their needs like they need it to survive for their lives.
According to Guy Winch “…rejection is such a strong emotion that the body actually registers the sensation as if it were a physical pain” (http://www.policymic.com/articles/56291/the-science-behind-why-rejection-hurts-so-damn-much).Which means that rejection is a strong intense of emotional pain as same as physical pain and when someone had experience this kind of situation, the person who got rejected will start to misbehave and inapprioriate behaviors because of toleration in negative emotional stress.
I. Summary
Chapter I
INTRODUCTION
A. Background of the Study
Most people who have experienced rejection can cause them distress,aggression or misbehavior. Rejection is the one of the most major problems in humanity. Most of the time. people at younger ages can affect their lives and it continues to grow the situation as they get older. People who had this kind of experience will cause them emotional pain and it may be possible that the person who will get rejected can act violently . When people got rejected, it can cause them fear or depression and get the result of being rejected can manage to attempt suicide, murder, bullying and other violent misbehavior.
In the article "Consequences of Peer Rejection," J. L. Cook discusses how peer rejection could have a massive impact on the adolescents life, especially if the rejection the adolescent encounters causes him some humiliation. The article also discusses some of the more extreme consequences of social rejection, which include school shootings.
Cook says, "Peer rejection is a powerful force in adolescent life, especially when the person being rejected is also ridiculed, harassed, or bullied. Although rejection leads to murder and suicide only in rare instances, it is associated with countless other acts of lesser violence, delinquency, isolation, and loneliness" (http://www.education.com/reference/article/consequences-peer-rejection/).
Rejection can also be a traumatic experience, and is, in fact a very common phobia. People are afraid to be judged, and in extreme cases a person's anxiety about how other people perceive him can be debilitating.
In the article, "Phobias: The rationale behind irrational fears," Dean Burnett discusses the influence and impact of this fear on human beings. He says, “The fear of rejection or judgement from others is a powerful force for humans; much of how we think and behave is calibrated around the views and behaviours of others" (http://www.theguardian.com/science/brain-flapping/2013/jun/28/phobias-rationale-irrational-fears).
It explains that people who had sensed fear of being rejected can cause them emotional pain like being punch on the face. If fear of rejection continues to develop, it might be possible that a person can gain more depression and get the result of misbehavior. People who had fear in rejection are being irrational of why they fear rejection. The reason for that is they sense that they are going to be rejection before it will happen to them.
Some other people found out that why they get rejected because people are nowadays are being too open-minded. If what people see from the person who is going to get rejected can possible that the person will be judged by their open-mindedness.
In this article "Why Great Ideas Get Rejected" by David Burkus. This article tells about the history of rejection of which Igor Stavinsky made his audiences to have a rion for having a terrible performance on ballet performers and how did he find the reason why the audiences rejected his work. It tells also about the reason why people reject other.
According to Burkus, “Most of us sincerely claim that we want the positive changes creativity provides”(http://99u.com/articles/7207/why-great-ideas-get-rejected). He was explaining that people needs to see something of what is beautiful in the society and they are trying to reject the person of which part of what they dislike about the person and that could be the reason people reject people.
In this article "Why Great Ideas Get Rejected" by David Burkus. This article tells about the history of rejection of which Igor Stavinsky made his audiences to have a rion for having a terrible performance on ballet performers and how did he find the reason why the audiences rejected his work. It tells also about the reason why people reject other.
According to Burkus, “Most of us sincerely claim that we want the positive changes creativity provides”(http://99u.com/articles/7207/why-great-ideas-get-rejected). He was explaining that people needs to see something of what is beautiful in the society and they are trying to reject the person of which part of what they dislike about the person and that could be the reason people reject people.
Rejection can be also cause us emotional stress to us like breaking up with a relationship partner, being an outcast in a group of friends and other situations. Rejection can give emotional stress because we tolerate disappointment, depression and distress.
In this article "The Science Behind Why Rejection Hurts So Damn Much." This article tells about that rejection is strong intense of pain that the rejected will experience fear, disappointment,depression and distress. It can also give illness that will affect to the heart muscles because of the pressure. It also tells about that the for reason why rejection hurt so much because most people need it for their needs like they need it to survive for their lives.
According to Guy Winch “…rejection is such a strong emotion that the body actually registers the sensation as if it were a physical pain” (http://www.policymic.com/articles/56291/the-science-behind-why-rejection-hurts-so-damn-much).Which means that rejection is a strong intense of emotional pain as same as physical pain and when someone had experience this kind of situation, the person who got rejected will start to misbehave and inapprioriate behaviors because of toleration in negative emotional stress.
When people get the same situation like being rejected, it might be painful from the beginning but what they don’t know is rejection has benefits. Every single person had experienced of being rejected by others like getting fired on their job, broke up with the relationship partner, not being approved to ask to a prom date and other stuff that will predict that the person will get rejected. For example, Micahel Jordan had been the most famous basketball player in history but he was also part of being rejected,too. He got cut on the basketball league on his high school life.
Some people find it hard that most of them want to know how to make life things better when they got rejected. Having this background information about rejection will allow reader to reduce the fear of rejection and make a better attitude after being rejected.
To understand this situation, this paper focuses on explaining the possible benefits of rejection.
B. Statement of the Problem
This study aims to study this question:
- What are the possible ways to understand why people reject people?
- What can be the benefits after being rejected?
C. Significance of the Study
1) Philosopher. This study for the philosopher is to find out the reason why people are so open-minded that why they reject people. It also give reasons for the rejector of why they get rejected.
2) Psychologist. The study of this is the purpose for the psychologist is to understand the idea and the behaviors of the rejected and the rejector. The purpose of this is also to help the rejector to behave or give any treatments or tips to make sure to the depression or distress of the rejected.
3) Future Researchers. This study for the researchers is to make sure that to understand why people reject people and to know the behaviors of the person who got rejected. It also the purpose to make sure that to make the rejected to give them more benefits or an advantages after being rejected by the rejector. Lastly, the purpose of this is to understand why the rejector rejects the person who will get reject.
D. Scope and Delimitation
This study focuses about the different kinds of rejection and finding the way of the benefits about rejection.
This study will not focus about the reasons why people reject people because there are other ways why people reject people. For example, why the most popular person refused the the other who wasn't so popular to for a prom date. There are so many reasons why people reject everything to the other person.
E. Materials and Methods
To find the sources of this data about rejection, the researcher will find it through the articles from the website or book. The researcher will also going to analyze the data by summarizing of which are the benefits about rejection from the article and the researcher will omit the article of which is not going to used from the article.
H. Definition of Terms
1)The Rejected. A person who is going to be rejected
2) The Rejector. A person that will reject the rejected.
3) Social Rejection. A rejection type that can’t allow person to join in a group of the cliques
Romantic Rejection. A rejection that can be either rejected by the person’s crush to be as couple. It is also a type of rejection that will going to break up by the person’s relationship partner
Peer Rejection. A type of rejection that the rejection will give peer pressure for the rejected like bullying, blackmailing or etc.
Friend zone. A person who is going to reject the rejected and wants to be “just friends”
Chapter 2
DISCUSSION
I. Definition
II. Types of Rejection
II. Types of Rejection
What is rejection? When people ask this type of question, why people reject people. Rejection is an inacteraction between a person with another person who will refuse of something like being refused on to be in group of the clique or being an outcast in school. Rejection is the most problem in each person who have been experience this since in childhood life. It also the cause why people misbehave and it also can cause them depression.
a) Peer Rejection-This type of rejection had been the major problems in school or in life because peer rejection can give pressure to the rejected like bullying, black mailing or pressuring the person who will be rejected. It can cause aggression, depression, misbehavior or even mental disorder such as traumatize.
In this article "Early Behavior Problems Cause Peer Rejection, Friendlessness and May Lead To Depression and Loneliness in Adolescence". This article tells about the children who have been rejected since elementary can affect their adolescence life by being rejected in school. It also talks about the results of the children after being rejected by giving them lack of friends, depression, or failing marks on their conduct grade.
According to Andrea Browning "Both rejection and a lack of friends in elementary school put children at risk for adjustment problems in adolescence" (http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/releases/77523.php).
She was explaining that the children who have been rejected can cause the children to develop misbehavior, depression, aggression and distress until when they become as a teenager. The children also have the same problem as the teenager does by rejected in school.
b) The Friend Zone- A type of rejection is the rejector will reject the rejected to be in a relationship and the rejector just want to be friends. It was also called "busted" or the Filipino people will call it as "na-basted." This type of rejection was called from the internet. Most people who had experienced this will cause them depression because the rejected was frustrated for not giving them the acceptance between their relationship. The reason why the rejected cause them depression because the rejected has a high expectations to achieve their goal to be in a relationship.
There is a new type of rejection was being defined in the year 2011, it's called the "friend zone." This kind of situation are now the new problems among teenagers and adults. This situation can cause the rejected to be frustrated, depressed, and misbehavior. It also have the same problem as romantic rejection but the difference between them is that the friend zone can be stay friends, unlike the romantic rejection will be apart from their relationships.
In this article "The Truth Behind Friend Zone" by Michele Knight. This article talks about the male and female as friends and how do they define each other of what attracts them the most. It also talks about the doctor name Dr. April Bleske-Rechek who made an experiment in his lab to invite a male and female as friends and to define each other.
According to Knight "They also discovered that the men's attraction to their female friends didn't change with relationship status - either his or theirs. But for the women, if their male friend was in a relationship they found him less attractive and when in a relationship themselves, all women were significantly less interested in the project of dating their friend" (http://www.micheleknight.co.uk/articles/love-sos/the-truth-behind-the-friend-zone/).
She was explaining that most men found their female friends are more attractive while the women were found the men were less attractive and they are interested to be in a relationship with the men. Friend zone is like siblings, the brother can't fall inlove with his sister.
c) Romantic Rejection - A type of rejection that who had experienced breaking up or seperating relationships. These are the people who wants to end their relationships between them. This type of rejection can give them depression and bitterness from the one who decided to be seperated. However, there is a reason why the rejetor decided to break up with his/her partner. It might be because the partner was too clingy, there might be getting tired of arguing, the rejector fell in love with the other person, strict parents, different religion the partner did something of that is unpleasant ,or etc.
Another parts of being rejection is breaking up with a romantic partner or we call it Romantic Rejection. This type of rejection is another problem between a person had broke up from their partner. This can cause depression, lack of concentration and lose interest to see the future. Most people who had experienced this can commit suicide or murder their partner. Romantic rejection is worst than friend zone.
In this article "Mental Illness and Romantic Rejection" by Katie Bongiorno. It talks about what the author experienced about romantic rejection but she never had experience on her adolescent life. However, she was a child abuse survivor who had seen many people who had been breaking up with their romantic partner and tells on her article.
According to Bongiorno "As tends to happen with thing that burn hot and fast, they die out fast,too, either in a great display of fireworks, or else into a puff of smoke as the exhaust their fuel like rocket"
(http://queermentalhealth.org/article/mental-illness-and-romantic-rejection/).
She was explaining that when a relationship had fallen apart, it can be either make between a person and their partner will change in a good way or make the situation worse.
d) Social Rejection- This type of rejection are the people who being rejected by the group of friends in school or in the society. These are people who were called as a loser and the role of the rejected is to be as an outcast from the group. It is also the type of rejection who will cause the rejected to be depressed,lonely and distress. The reason why the rejected was rejected from the rejector because it might be the looks or the attitude.
If romantic rejection and friend zone are painful, the worse will be is social rejection. Most people who had been experiencing social rejection will cause them mental pain. This type of rejection will give them aggression, depression, misbehavior and mental disorder.
In this article "Study Illuminates the Pain of Social Rejection" by Ethan Kross. This article talks about that social rejection can cause the pain as physical pain. The author made an experimentation that he need 400 participants to show their ex romantic partner's image and spill a very hot coffee to the participants to prove that they have the same pain.
According to Kross "While earlier research has shown that the same brain regions support the emotionally distressing feelings that accompany the experience of both physical pain and social rejection, the current study is the first known to establish that there is neural overlap and between both of these experiences in brain regions that become active when people experience painful sensation in their body" (http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/03/110328151726.htm).
He was explaining that the brain is getting more active when people who is experiencing social rejection. It also explains that the brain will cause disorder or it kills the brain cells because of the mental pressure of the person.
Most people who had been rejected in a different way, some people wants to look other way to relieve depression after being rejected. On this study this talks about the "Types of Rejection." This talks about the differences of rejection. Some people seeks to have benefits after being rejected. Do they have benefits? The answer is there will be possible that there will be benefits.
a) Peer Rejection-This type of rejection had been the major problems in school or in life because peer rejection can give pressure to the rejected like bullying, black mailing or pressuring the person who will be rejected. It can cause aggression, depression, misbehavior or even mental disorder such as traumatize.
In this article "Early Behavior Problems Cause Peer Rejection, Friendlessness and May Lead To Depression and Loneliness in Adolescence". This article tells about the children who have been rejected since elementary can affect their adolescence life by being rejected in school. It also talks about the results of the children after being rejected by giving them lack of friends, depression, or failing marks on their conduct grade.
According to Andrea Browning "Both rejection and a lack of friends in elementary school put children at risk for adjustment problems in adolescence" (http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/releases/77523.php).
She was explaining that the children who have been rejected can cause the children to develop misbehavior, depression, aggression and distress until when they become as a teenager. The children also have the same problem as the teenager does by rejected in school.
b) The Friend Zone- A type of rejection is the rejector will reject the rejected to be in a relationship and the rejector just want to be friends. It was also called "busted" or the Filipino people will call it as "na-basted." This type of rejection was called from the internet. Most people who had experienced this will cause them depression because the rejected was frustrated for not giving them the acceptance between their relationship. The reason why the rejected cause them depression because the rejected has a high expectations to achieve their goal to be in a relationship.
There is a new type of rejection was being defined in the year 2011, it's called the "friend zone." This kind of situation are now the new problems among teenagers and adults. This situation can cause the rejected to be frustrated, depressed, and misbehavior. It also have the same problem as romantic rejection but the difference between them is that the friend zone can be stay friends, unlike the romantic rejection will be apart from their relationships.
In this article "The Truth Behind Friend Zone" by Michele Knight. This article talks about the male and female as friends and how do they define each other of what attracts them the most. It also talks about the doctor name Dr. April Bleske-Rechek who made an experiment in his lab to invite a male and female as friends and to define each other.
According to Knight "They also discovered that the men's attraction to their female friends didn't change with relationship status - either his or theirs. But for the women, if their male friend was in a relationship they found him less attractive and when in a relationship themselves, all women were significantly less interested in the project of dating their friend" (http://www.micheleknight.co.uk/articles/love-sos/the-truth-behind-the-friend-zone/).
She was explaining that most men found their female friends are more attractive while the women were found the men were less attractive and they are interested to be in a relationship with the men. Friend zone is like siblings, the brother can't fall inlove with his sister.
c) Romantic Rejection - A type of rejection that who had experienced breaking up or seperating relationships. These are the people who wants to end their relationships between them. This type of rejection can give them depression and bitterness from the one who decided to be seperated. However, there is a reason why the rejetor decided to break up with his/her partner. It might be because the partner was too clingy, there might be getting tired of arguing, the rejector fell in love with the other person, strict parents, different religion the partner did something of that is unpleasant ,or etc.
Another parts of being rejection is breaking up with a romantic partner or we call it Romantic Rejection. This type of rejection is another problem between a person had broke up from their partner. This can cause depression, lack of concentration and lose interest to see the future. Most people who had experienced this can commit suicide or murder their partner. Romantic rejection is worst than friend zone.
In this article "Mental Illness and Romantic Rejection" by Katie Bongiorno. It talks about what the author experienced about romantic rejection but she never had experience on her adolescent life. However, she was a child abuse survivor who had seen many people who had been breaking up with their romantic partner and tells on her article.
According to Bongiorno "As tends to happen with thing that burn hot and fast, they die out fast,too, either in a great display of fireworks, or else into a puff of smoke as the exhaust their fuel like rocket"
(http://queermentalhealth.org/article/mental-illness-and-romantic-rejection/).
She was explaining that when a relationship had fallen apart, it can be either make between a person and their partner will change in a good way or make the situation worse.
d) Social Rejection- This type of rejection are the people who being rejected by the group of friends in school or in the society. These are people who were called as a loser and the role of the rejected is to be as an outcast from the group. It is also the type of rejection who will cause the rejected to be depressed,lonely and distress. The reason why the rejected was rejected from the rejector because it might be the looks or the attitude.
If romantic rejection and friend zone are painful, the worse will be is social rejection. Most people who had been experiencing social rejection will cause them mental pain. This type of rejection will give them aggression, depression, misbehavior and mental disorder.
In this article "Study Illuminates the Pain of Social Rejection" by Ethan Kross. This article talks about that social rejection can cause the pain as physical pain. The author made an experimentation that he need 400 participants to show their ex romantic partner's image and spill a very hot coffee to the participants to prove that they have the same pain.
According to Kross "While earlier research has shown that the same brain regions support the emotionally distressing feelings that accompany the experience of both physical pain and social rejection, the current study is the first known to establish that there is neural overlap and between both of these experiences in brain regions that become active when people experience painful sensation in their body" (http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/03/110328151726.htm).
He was explaining that the brain is getting more active when people who is experiencing social rejection. It also explains that the brain will cause disorder or it kills the brain cells because of the mental pressure of the person.
Most people who had been rejected in a different way, some people wants to look other way to relieve depression after being rejected. On this study this talks about the "Types of Rejection." This talks about the differences of rejection. Some people seeks to have benefits after being rejected. Do they have benefits? The answer is there will be possible that there will be benefits.
III. The Benefits after being Rejected:
After being rejected by the rejector, it may be possible to have benefits for the rejected.
a) Rejection will help people to be stronger- After being rejected like failure marks on your grades or was not approved to join on the group, this will be possible to change the way your are. It's like learning from your mistakes. Admit it or not, we get rejected because we did something wrong to them and that's why they refuse us to be on a group or to pass on the examination. It's like learning from mistakes.
In this article "How can Rejection can Crush and Make you Stronger" by Bob Livingstone. This article tells about the experiences of the author on losing a friend from him and observing the people who have been also experiencing rejection. He wrote everything about his life of being rejected by others.
According to Livingstone "Eventually these losses fade more into background,but they never totally go away and sometimes memories com up and extremely painful,but they do return to background noise"(http://boblivingstone.com/how-rejection-can-crush-and-make-you-stronger/).
He is trying to say that everytime rejection comes toward to the person who will be rejected can cause more to be stronger. It's like rejection will help people to learn from their mistakes.
b) Rejection will teach us to be patient- Another reason why we rejected because we are so eager to see what will happen to us in the future like we predict easily of what will happen to us and we get too excited to see of what will happen to us. We are too curious to see it. The lesson from this is to be patient so that we can have more time to relax and it will give us to be more confidence.
In this article "The 7 Unseen Benefits Of Rejection" by Romanes Stewart. This article talks about what people don't know after being rejected can also have the benefits. It also helps to improve the person when they get rejected by others.
As Stewart said "Most people think of rejections as failure but most of the time,it's just the wrong timing. You or your ideas may still be a diamond in a rough" (http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/7-unseen-benefits-rejection/).
c) Rejection will give us more creative or to be wiser- The more you get rejected, the more you will improve and change to be as a better person. Most of us as human being will need to develop our social skills and other skills. This will give us to understand the reason why people reject of something is unpleasant.
In this article "Rejection May Fuel Creativity" by Megan Gannon. This article talks about independent are the one who have been experienced rejection by the group of friends. The author made an experimentation that he need 12 college students to measure their uniqueness and if the they don't follow, the participants will be rejected. After the activity, the author rejected few participants but the author gave the participants another chance to draw an alien by using their creativity. After the activity, the author was shocked that the participants drew an alien with an incredible design.
According to Gannon "...imaginative thinking in people who already have a strong sense of independence" (http://www.livescience.com/22564-rejection-creativity-independence.html).
She was trying to explain that independent people are more creative than the group of friends because no one can conflict the person who is independent and most independent people are wiser or more creative than the groups.
d) Rejection can give more opportunity- Being rejected can give more time to improve in ourselves and it gives more opportunity reconsider from our mistakes. This will explore people to learn from each mistakes that they had from the society or in school.
In this article "10 Benefits Of Rejection That Will Surely Impress You" by J.S Wayne. This article talks about as the same article of Romanes Stewart but Wayne added more information about that benefits of rejection. Somehow, what he wrote about the topic is that Rejection can give more opportunity.
According to Wayne " If we would only take the time to listen to ourselves about these things, as a race we'd be a lot happier and a lot more confident in ourselves" (http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/10-benefits-rejection-that-will-surely-impress-you.html).
The author was trying to say that if we only believe in ourselves, the person might be possible to be affirmed. If not, try to grab the opportunity or the second chance until the person achieve his/her goals.
After being rejected by the rejector, it may be possible to have benefits for the rejected.
a) Rejection will help people to be stronger- After being rejected like failure marks on your grades or was not approved to join on the group, this will be possible to change the way your are. It's like learning from your mistakes. Admit it or not, we get rejected because we did something wrong to them and that's why they refuse us to be on a group or to pass on the examination. It's like learning from mistakes.
In this article "How can Rejection can Crush and Make you Stronger" by Bob Livingstone. This article tells about the experiences of the author on losing a friend from him and observing the people who have been also experiencing rejection. He wrote everything about his life of being rejected by others.
According to Livingstone "Eventually these losses fade more into background,but they never totally go away and sometimes memories com up and extremely painful,but they do return to background noise"(http://boblivingstone.com/how-rejection-can-crush-and-make-you-stronger/).
He is trying to say that everytime rejection comes toward to the person who will be rejected can cause more to be stronger. It's like rejection will help people to learn from their mistakes.
b) Rejection will teach us to be patient- Another reason why we rejected because we are so eager to see what will happen to us in the future like we predict easily of what will happen to us and we get too excited to see of what will happen to us. We are too curious to see it. The lesson from this is to be patient so that we can have more time to relax and it will give us to be more confidence.
In this article "The 7 Unseen Benefits Of Rejection" by Romanes Stewart. This article talks about what people don't know after being rejected can also have the benefits. It also helps to improve the person when they get rejected by others.
As Stewart said "Most people think of rejections as failure but most of the time,it's just the wrong timing. You or your ideas may still be a diamond in a rough" (http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/7-unseen-benefits-rejection/).
c) Rejection will give us more creative or to be wiser- The more you get rejected, the more you will improve and change to be as a better person. Most of us as human being will need to develop our social skills and other skills. This will give us to understand the reason why people reject of something is unpleasant.
In this article "Rejection May Fuel Creativity" by Megan Gannon. This article talks about independent are the one who have been experienced rejection by the group of friends. The author made an experimentation that he need 12 college students to measure their uniqueness and if the they don't follow, the participants will be rejected. After the activity, the author rejected few participants but the author gave the participants another chance to draw an alien by using their creativity. After the activity, the author was shocked that the participants drew an alien with an incredible design.
According to Gannon "...imaginative thinking in people who already have a strong sense of independence" (http://www.livescience.com/22564-rejection-creativity-independence.html).
She was trying to explain that independent people are more creative than the group of friends because no one can conflict the person who is independent and most independent people are wiser or more creative than the groups.
d) Rejection can give more opportunity- Being rejected can give more time to improve in ourselves and it gives more opportunity reconsider from our mistakes. This will explore people to learn from each mistakes that they had from the society or in school.
In this article "10 Benefits Of Rejection That Will Surely Impress You" by J.S Wayne. This article talks about as the same article of Romanes Stewart but Wayne added more information about that benefits of rejection. Somehow, what he wrote about the topic is that Rejection can give more opportunity.
According to Wayne " If we would only take the time to listen to ourselves about these things, as a race we'd be a lot happier and a lot more confident in ourselves" (http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/10-benefits-rejection-that-will-surely-impress-you.html).
The author was trying to say that if we only believe in ourselves, the person might be possible to be affirmed. If not, try to grab the opportunity or the second chance until the person achieve his/her goals.
Chapter 3
SUMMARY,CONCLUSIONS
AND RECOMMENDATION
AND RECOMMENDATION
I. Summary
In this study, this paper will talk about the findings about rejection. The researcher found an evidences from the articles of the author. This includes the following:
1) Rejection can cause depression, distress, aggression, misbehavior and mental pain because most people are afraid of rejection.
2) Rejection can cause emotional stress because of the toleration of the mental pressure and depression of the person.
3) Peer rejection gives the person to misbehave in school because the rejected was bullied or blackmailed.
4) Although, there are negative effects of rejection but the researcher found that it's possible to have a benefits after being rejected by the others.
1) Rejection can cause depression, distress, aggression, misbehavior and mental pain because most people are afraid of rejection.
2) Rejection can cause emotional stress because of the toleration of the mental pressure and depression of the person.
3) Peer rejection gives the person to misbehave in school because the rejected was bullied or blackmailed.
4) Although, there are negative effects of rejection but the researcher found that it's possible to have a benefits after being rejected by the others.
II. Conclusions
In this study, the researcher will discuss about the types of rejection and the benefits of rejection. These includes the following:
1) Most male friends got friend zoned by the females because the females don't have trust for male males or it might probably because they don't want to lose their friendship when they become couple and break up with each other. It also found that the females found male friends are less attractive.
2) Peer rejection can cause the person who will be rejected can cause emotional stress because the person which will be rejected was bullied or black mailed by the others and the rejector will give more mental pressure to the person who will be rejected.
3) Social Rejection can cause pain as same as physical pain because the brain is active and the people are losing their concentration because they hurt emotionally. The reason why it hurts as same as physical pain because it kills each brain cells by the toleration of depression.
4) However, rejection will make you stronger because from each rejection cause every mistakes and in each mistakes, people will learn from it.
5) Rejection will teach us to be patient because the reason why people reject people because some people are too excited to see the results like a person who will confess to their crush about their feelings but the crush was not ready for the situation so the crush will rejected the person.
III. Recommendation
After discussing all about rejection and the benefits of rejection. The researcher would suggest these following:
1) The psychologist must help the rejected to understand why they reject from the beginning because some people who will be rejected cannot find the reason why they were rejected and they must help them to heal their mental pain like give them an activity or any treatments.
2) The philosopher should understand the reason to the rejector of why they reject the person who will be rejected. The researcher would suggest that the philosophers must discuss this to the psychologist so that the psychologist must help the person who will be rejected
3) For the future researchers, they must understand the reasons of rejection from the people and the researcher suggest that the future researchers should make surveys to victims of rejection and the people who reject people.
References:
Eletronic Media
In this study, the researcher will discuss about the types of rejection and the benefits of rejection. These includes the following:
1) Most male friends got friend zoned by the females because the females don't have trust for male males or it might probably because they don't want to lose their friendship when they become couple and break up with each other. It also found that the females found male friends are less attractive.
2) Peer rejection can cause the person who will be rejected can cause emotional stress because the person which will be rejected was bullied or black mailed by the others and the rejector will give more mental pressure to the person who will be rejected.
3) Social Rejection can cause pain as same as physical pain because the brain is active and the people are losing their concentration because they hurt emotionally. The reason why it hurts as same as physical pain because it kills each brain cells by the toleration of depression.
4) However, rejection will make you stronger because from each rejection cause every mistakes and in each mistakes, people will learn from it.
5) Rejection will teach us to be patient because the reason why people reject people because some people are too excited to see the results like a person who will confess to their crush about their feelings but the crush was not ready for the situation so the crush will rejected the person.
III. Recommendation
After discussing all about rejection and the benefits of rejection. The researcher would suggest these following:
1) The psychologist must help the rejected to understand why they reject from the beginning because some people who will be rejected cannot find the reason why they were rejected and they must help them to heal their mental pain like give them an activity or any treatments.
2) The philosopher should understand the reason to the rejector of why they reject the person who will be rejected. The researcher would suggest that the philosophers must discuss this to the psychologist so that the psychologist must help the person who will be rejected
3) For the future researchers, they must understand the reasons of rejection from the people and the researcher suggest that the future researchers should make surveys to victims of rejection and the people who reject people.
References:
Eletronic Media
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"Mental Illness and Romantic Rejection" Retrieved September 13, 2012 from http://queermentalhealth.org/article/mental-illness-and-romantic-rejection/
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"The 7 Unseen Benefits Of Rejection" Retrieved December 15, 2013 from http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/7-unseen-benefits-rejection/
"Rejection May Fuel Creativity" Retrieved August 21, 2012 from http://www.livescience.com/22564-rejection-creativity-independence.html
"10 Benefits Of Rejection That Will Surely Impress You" Retrieved January 24 , 2013 from http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/10-benefits-rejection-that-will-surely-impress-you.html
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