Chapter 2
DISCUSSION
I. Definition
II. Types of Rejection
II. Types of Rejection
What is rejection? When people ask this type of question, why people reject people. Rejection is an inacteraction between a person with another person who will refuse of something like being refused on to be in group of the clique or being an outcast in school. Rejection is the most problem in each person who have been experience this since in childhood life. It also the cause why people misbehave and it also can cause them depression.
a) Peer Rejection-This type of rejection had been the major problems in school or in life because peer
rejection can give pressure to the rejected like bullying, black mailing or pressuring the person who will be rejected. It can cause aggression, depression, misbehavior or even mental disorder such as traumatize.
In this article "Early Behavior Problems Cause Peer Rejection, Friendlessness and May Lead To Depression and Loneliness in Adolescence." This article tells about the children who have been rejected since elementary can affect their adolescence life by being rejected in school. It also talks about the results of the children after being rejected by giving them lack of friends, depression, or failing marks on their conduct grade.
According to Andrea Browning "Both rejection and a lack of friends in elementary school put children at risk for adjustment problems in adolescence." (http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/releases/77523.php)
She was explaining that the children who have been rejected can cause the children to develop misbehavior, depression, aggression and distress until when they become as a teenager. The children also have the same problem as the teenager does by rejected in school.
b) The Friend Zone- A type of rejection is the rejector will reject the rejected to be in a relationship and the rejector just want to be friends. It was also called "busted" or the Filipino people will call it as "na-basted." This type of rejection was called from the internet. Most people who had experienced this will cause them depression because the rejected was frustrated for not giving them the acceptance between their relationship. The reason why the rejected cause them depression because the rejected has a high expectations to achieve their goal to be in a relationship.
There is a new type of rejection was being defined in the year 2011, it's called the "friend zone." This kind of situation are now the new problems among teenagers and adults. This situation can cause the rejected to be frustrated, depressed, and misbehavior. It also have the same problem as romantic rejection but the difference between them is that the friend zone can be stay friends, unlike the romantic rejection will be apart from their relationships.
In this article "The Truth Behind Friend Zone" by Michele Knight. This article talks about the male and female as friends and how do they define each other of what attracts them the most. It also talks about the doctor name Dr. April Bleske-Rechek who made an experiment in his lab to invite a male and female as friends and to define each other.
According to Knight "They also discovered that the men's attraction to their female friends didn't change with relationship status - either his or theirs. But for the women, if their male friend was in a relationship they found him less attractive and when in a relationship themselves, all women were significantly less interested in the project of dating their friend." (http://www.micheleknight.co.uk/articles/love-sos/the-truth-behind-the-friend-zone/).
She was explaining that most men found their female friends are more attractive while the women were found the men were less attractive and they are interested to be in a relationship with the men. Friend zone is like siblings, the brother can't fall inlove with his sister.
c) Romantic Rejection - A type of rejection that who had experienced breaking up or seperating relationships. These are the people who wants to end their relationships between them. This type of rejection can give them depression and bitterness from the one who decided to be seperated. However, there is a reason why the rejetor decided to break up with his/her partner. It might be because the partner was too clingy, there might be getting tired of arguing, the rejector fell in love with the other person, strict parents, different religion the partner did something of that is unpleasant ,or etc.
Another parts of being rejection is breaking up with a romantic partner or we call it Romantic Rejection. This type of rejection is another problem between a person had broke up from their partner. This can cause depression, lack of concentration and lose interest to see the future. Most people who had experienced this can commit suicide or murder their partner. Romantic rejection is worst than friend zone.
In this article "Mental Illness and Romantic Rejection" by Katie Bongiorno. It talks about what the author experienced about romantic rejection but she never had experience on her adolescent life. However, she was a child abuse survivor who had seen many people who had been breaking up with their romantic partner and tells on her article.
According to Bongiorno "As tends to happen with thing that burn hot and fast, they die out fast,too, either in a great display of fireworks, or else into a puff of smoke as the exhaust their fuel like rocket."
(http://queermentalhealth.org/article/mental-illness-and-romantic-rejection/).
She was explaining that when a relationship had fallen apart, it can be either make between a person and their partner will change in a good way or make the situation worse.
d) Social Rejection- This type of rejection are the people who being rejected by the group of friends in school or in the society. These are people who were called as a loser and the role of the rejected is to be as an outcast from the group. It is also the type of rejection who will cause the rejected to be depressed,lonely and distress. The reason why the rejected was rejected from the rejector because it might be the looks or the attitude.
If romantic rejection and friend zone are painful, the worse will be is social rejection. Most people who had been experiencing social rejection will cause them mental pain. This type of rejection will give them aggression, depression, misbehavior and mental disorder.
In this article "Study Illuminates the Pain of Social Rejection" by Ethan Kross. This article talks about that social rejection can cause the pain as physical pain. The author made an experimentation that he need 400 participants to show their ex romantic partner's image and spill a very hot coffee to the participants to prove that they have the same pain.
According to Kross "While earlier research has shown that the same brain regions support the emotionally distressing feelings that accompany the experience of both physical pain and social rejection, the current study is the first known to establish that there is neural overlap and between both of these experiences in brain regions that become active when people experience painful sensation in their body" (http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/03/110328151726.htm).
He was explaining that the brain is getting more active when people who is experiencing social rejection. It also explains that the brain will cause disorder or it kills the brain cells because of the mental pressure of the person.
Most people who had been rejected in a different way, some people wants to look other way to relieve depression after being rejected. On this study this talks about the "Types of Rejection." This talks about the differences of rejection. Some people seeks to have benefits after being rejected. Do they have benefits? The answer is there will be possible that there will be benefits.
a) Peer Rejection-This type of rejection had been the major problems in school or in life because peer
rejection can give pressure to the rejected like bullying, black mailing or pressuring the person who will be rejected. It can cause aggression, depression, misbehavior or even mental disorder such as traumatize.
In this article "Early Behavior Problems Cause Peer Rejection, Friendlessness and May Lead To Depression and Loneliness in Adolescence." This article tells about the children who have been rejected since elementary can affect their adolescence life by being rejected in school. It also talks about the results of the children after being rejected by giving them lack of friends, depression, or failing marks on their conduct grade.
According to Andrea Browning "Both rejection and a lack of friends in elementary school put children at risk for adjustment problems in adolescence." (http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/releases/77523.php)
She was explaining that the children who have been rejected can cause the children to develop misbehavior, depression, aggression and distress until when they become as a teenager. The children also have the same problem as the teenager does by rejected in school.
b) The Friend Zone- A type of rejection is the rejector will reject the rejected to be in a relationship and the rejector just want to be friends. It was also called "busted" or the Filipino people will call it as "na-basted." This type of rejection was called from the internet. Most people who had experienced this will cause them depression because the rejected was frustrated for not giving them the acceptance between their relationship. The reason why the rejected cause them depression because the rejected has a high expectations to achieve their goal to be in a relationship.
There is a new type of rejection was being defined in the year 2011, it's called the "friend zone." This kind of situation are now the new problems among teenagers and adults. This situation can cause the rejected to be frustrated, depressed, and misbehavior. It also have the same problem as romantic rejection but the difference between them is that the friend zone can be stay friends, unlike the romantic rejection will be apart from their relationships.
In this article "The Truth Behind Friend Zone" by Michele Knight. This article talks about the male and female as friends and how do they define each other of what attracts them the most. It also talks about the doctor name Dr. April Bleske-Rechek who made an experiment in his lab to invite a male and female as friends and to define each other.
According to Knight "They also discovered that the men's attraction to their female friends didn't change with relationship status - either his or theirs. But for the women, if their male friend was in a relationship they found him less attractive and when in a relationship themselves, all women were significantly less interested in the project of dating their friend." (http://www.micheleknight.co.uk/articles/love-sos/the-truth-behind-the-friend-zone/).
She was explaining that most men found their female friends are more attractive while the women were found the men were less attractive and they are interested to be in a relationship with the men. Friend zone is like siblings, the brother can't fall inlove with his sister.
c) Romantic Rejection - A type of rejection that who had experienced breaking up or seperating relationships. These are the people who wants to end their relationships between them. This type of rejection can give them depression and bitterness from the one who decided to be seperated. However, there is a reason why the rejetor decided to break up with his/her partner. It might be because the partner was too clingy, there might be getting tired of arguing, the rejector fell in love with the other person, strict parents, different religion the partner did something of that is unpleasant ,or etc.
Another parts of being rejection is breaking up with a romantic partner or we call it Romantic Rejection. This type of rejection is another problem between a person had broke up from their partner. This can cause depression, lack of concentration and lose interest to see the future. Most people who had experienced this can commit suicide or murder their partner. Romantic rejection is worst than friend zone.
In this article "Mental Illness and Romantic Rejection" by Katie Bongiorno. It talks about what the author experienced about romantic rejection but she never had experience on her adolescent life. However, she was a child abuse survivor who had seen many people who had been breaking up with their romantic partner and tells on her article.
According to Bongiorno "As tends to happen with thing that burn hot and fast, they die out fast,too, either in a great display of fireworks, or else into a puff of smoke as the exhaust their fuel like rocket."
(http://queermentalhealth.org/article/mental-illness-and-romantic-rejection/).
She was explaining that when a relationship had fallen apart, it can be either make between a person and their partner will change in a good way or make the situation worse.
d) Social Rejection- This type of rejection are the people who being rejected by the group of friends in school or in the society. These are people who were called as a loser and the role of the rejected is to be as an outcast from the group. It is also the type of rejection who will cause the rejected to be depressed,lonely and distress. The reason why the rejected was rejected from the rejector because it might be the looks or the attitude.
If romantic rejection and friend zone are painful, the worse will be is social rejection. Most people who had been experiencing social rejection will cause them mental pain. This type of rejection will give them aggression, depression, misbehavior and mental disorder.
In this article "Study Illuminates the Pain of Social Rejection" by Ethan Kross. This article talks about that social rejection can cause the pain as physical pain. The author made an experimentation that he need 400 participants to show their ex romantic partner's image and spill a very hot coffee to the participants to prove that they have the same pain.
According to Kross "While earlier research has shown that the same brain regions support the emotionally distressing feelings that accompany the experience of both physical pain and social rejection, the current study is the first known to establish that there is neural overlap and between both of these experiences in brain regions that become active when people experience painful sensation in their body" (http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/03/110328151726.htm).
He was explaining that the brain is getting more active when people who is experiencing social rejection. It also explains that the brain will cause disorder or it kills the brain cells because of the mental pressure of the person.
Most people who had been rejected in a different way, some people wants to look other way to relieve depression after being rejected. On this study this talks about the "Types of Rejection." This talks about the differences of rejection. Some people seeks to have benefits after being rejected. Do they have benefits? The answer is there will be possible that there will be benefits.
III. The Benefits after being Rejected:
After being rejected by the rejector, it may be possible to have benefits for the rejected.
a) Rejection will help people to be stronger- After being rejected like failure marks on your grades or was not approved to join on the group, this will be possible to change the way your are. It's like learning from your mistakes. Admit it or not, we get rejected because we did something wrong to them and that's why they refuse us to be on a group or to pass on the examination. It's like learning from mistakes.
In this article "How can Rejection can Crush and Make you Stronger" by Bob Livingstone. This article tells about the experiences of the author on losing a friend from him and observing the people who have been also experiencing rejection. He wrote everything about his life of being rejected by others.
According to Livingstone "Eventually these losses fade more into background,but they never totally go away and sometimes memories com up and extremely painful,but they do return to background noise"(http://boblivingstone.com/how-rejection-can-crush-and-make-you-stronger/)
He is trying to say that everytime rejection comes toward to the person who will be rejected can cause more to be stronger. It's like rejection will help people to learn from their mistakes.
b) Rejection will teach us to be patient- Another reason why we rejected because we are so eager to see what will happen to us in the future like we predict easily of what will happen to us and we get too excited to see of what will happen to us. We are too curious to see it. The lesson from this is to be patient so that we can have more time to relax and it will give us to be more confidence.
In this article "The 7 Unseen Benefits Of Rejection" by Romanes Stewart. This article talks about what people don't know after being rejected can also have the benefits. It also helps to improve the person when they get rejected by others.
As Stewart said "Most people think of rejections as failure but most of the time,it's just the wrong timing. You or your ideas may still be a diamond in a rough." (http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/7-unseen-benefits-rejection/)
c) Rejection will give us more creative or to be wiser- The more you get rejected, the more you will improve and change to be as a better person. Most of us as human being will need to develop our social skills and other skills. This will give us to understand the reason why people reject of something is unpleasant.
In this article "Rejection May Fuel Creativity" by Megan Gannon. This article talks about independent are the one who have been experienced rejection by the group of friends. The author made an experimentation that he need 12 college students to measure their uniqueness and if the they don't follow, the participants will be rejected. After the activity, the author rejected few participants but the author gave the participants another chance to draw an alien by using their creativity. After the activity, the author was shocked that the participants drew an alien with an incredible design.
According to Gannon "...imaginative thinking in people who already have a strong sense of independence" (http://www.livescience.com/22564-rejection-creativity-independence.html).
She was trying to explain that independent people are more creative than the group of friends because no one can conflict the person who is independent and most independent people are wiser or more creative than the groups.
d) Rejection can give more opportunity- Being rejected can give more time to improve in ourselves and it gives more opportunity reconsider from our mistakes. This will explore people to learn from each mistakes that they had from the society or in school.
In this article "10 Benefits Of Rejection That Will Surely Impress You" by J.S Wayne. This article talks about as the same article of Romanes Stewart but Wayne added more information about that benefits of rejection. Somehow, what he wrote about the topic is that Rejection can give more opportunity.
According to Wayne " If we would only take the time to listen to ourselves about these things, as a race we'd be a lot happier and a lot more confident in ourselves" (http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/10-benefits-rejection-that-will-surely-impress-you.html)
The author was trying to say that if we only believe in ourselves, the person might be possible to be affirmed. If not, try to grab the opportunity or the second chance until the person achieve his/her goals.
After being rejected by the rejector, it may be possible to have benefits for the rejected.
a) Rejection will help people to be stronger- After being rejected like failure marks on your grades or was not approved to join on the group, this will be possible to change the way your are. It's like learning from your mistakes. Admit it or not, we get rejected because we did something wrong to them and that's why they refuse us to be on a group or to pass on the examination. It's like learning from mistakes.
In this article "How can Rejection can Crush and Make you Stronger" by Bob Livingstone. This article tells about the experiences of the author on losing a friend from him and observing the people who have been also experiencing rejection. He wrote everything about his life of being rejected by others.
According to Livingstone "Eventually these losses fade more into background,but they never totally go away and sometimes memories com up and extremely painful,but they do return to background noise"(http://boblivingstone.com/how-rejection-can-crush-and-make-you-stronger/)
He is trying to say that everytime rejection comes toward to the person who will be rejected can cause more to be stronger. It's like rejection will help people to learn from their mistakes.
b) Rejection will teach us to be patient- Another reason why we rejected because we are so eager to see what will happen to us in the future like we predict easily of what will happen to us and we get too excited to see of what will happen to us. We are too curious to see it. The lesson from this is to be patient so that we can have more time to relax and it will give us to be more confidence.
In this article "The 7 Unseen Benefits Of Rejection" by Romanes Stewart. This article talks about what people don't know after being rejected can also have the benefits. It also helps to improve the person when they get rejected by others.
As Stewart said "Most people think of rejections as failure but most of the time,it's just the wrong timing. You or your ideas may still be a diamond in a rough." (http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/7-unseen-benefits-rejection/)
c) Rejection will give us more creative or to be wiser- The more you get rejected, the more you will improve and change to be as a better person. Most of us as human being will need to develop our social skills and other skills. This will give us to understand the reason why people reject of something is unpleasant.
In this article "Rejection May Fuel Creativity" by Megan Gannon. This article talks about independent are the one who have been experienced rejection by the group of friends. The author made an experimentation that he need 12 college students to measure their uniqueness and if the they don't follow, the participants will be rejected. After the activity, the author rejected few participants but the author gave the participants another chance to draw an alien by using their creativity. After the activity, the author was shocked that the participants drew an alien with an incredible design.
According to Gannon "...imaginative thinking in people who already have a strong sense of independence" (http://www.livescience.com/22564-rejection-creativity-independence.html).
She was trying to explain that independent people are more creative than the group of friends because no one can conflict the person who is independent and most independent people are wiser or more creative than the groups.
d) Rejection can give more opportunity- Being rejected can give more time to improve in ourselves and it gives more opportunity reconsider from our mistakes. This will explore people to learn from each mistakes that they had from the society or in school.
In this article "10 Benefits Of Rejection That Will Surely Impress You" by J.S Wayne. This article talks about as the same article of Romanes Stewart but Wayne added more information about that benefits of rejection. Somehow, what he wrote about the topic is that Rejection can give more opportunity.
According to Wayne " If we would only take the time to listen to ourselves about these things, as a race we'd be a lot happier and a lot more confident in ourselves" (http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/10-benefits-rejection-that-will-surely-impress-you.html)
The author was trying to say that if we only believe in ourselves, the person might be possible to be affirmed. If not, try to grab the opportunity or the second chance until the person achieve his/her goals.
I. Definition
TumugonBurahinII. Types of Rejection
A. Peer Rejection
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B. Romantic Rejection
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C. The Friend Zone
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D. Social Rejection
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III. Benefits of Rejection
A. Rejection will Help People Learn from their Mistakes
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B. Rejection will Teach People to be more Patient