Have you ever experienced this kind of relationship that you want to confess your feelings to your crush and he/she just responded to be "friends" ? or have you feel that your crush treats you like best friends? According to my observation, being part of this so-called "friend zone", which was used to be call "busted" or "basted" by your crush, are now being used on the internet like 9gag, facebook and other sites of which where "friend zoned" found. There are so many reasons why your crush just treated you as friend and we all have that problem after being "Friend-zoned" by your crush. I also experienced that my be
Three years ago, I was at the computer shop surfing something on facebook and I decided to send a message for crush that I like her (look at the picture on the left). After I sent her a message, she thanked me and said to me that she just want to be friends. There's a reason why I wasn't chosen to be her boyfriend because she has another crush to someone and she was not interested on me. After I confessed everything to her, I feel like being rejected because it might appreciated but it's frsutrating because it was like being disapproved on job interview to be a role as her romantic relationship.
I read this article called "
The truth behind friend zone" by Michele Knight, this article talks about that the author made an experiment there are two part participants which is a boy and a girl who have been friends for a long time. The author asked them what do makes them attracted to each other and they observed to each other why they just want be "just friends". According to the author "
Just because two people are attracted to each other doesn't mean that they will become couple" it explains that they like each other because they like about their personality but it doesn't mean that they are interested to each other. For example, I have a friend who has been very nice to me and I like the way she treat me but it doesn't mean that I'm attracted to her.
I read another article called "
Nice guy syndrome and The friend zone" by Alisse Desrosiers. This article tells you about the reasons why women like to date more guys who are more "a**holes" (sorry for the word) than the nice guys. According to the author that "
Nice guys are arrongant, egotistical, selfish douche bags who around telling the world about they're the perfect boyfriend and they're just so nice" it explains that he has been so angry because all the nice guy person are just pretending to be a good guys just to impress their crush and the reason why girls chose the guys who are "a**holes" more than nice guys because the "a**holes" are true from themselves than the nice guys.
After I read these articles, what I learned about is that maybe because I was pretending to be as a character of which I am not just to impress my crush so it's my fault that I was really not into being myself. On my opinion, not all being self doesn't mean that your crush will fall inlove with you, there are some others that a boy and a girl knew each other on their personality and yet they're still friends because it's either they don't want to lose friendship or they're just friends because they treat each other like siblings. In order you to avoid being part of "friend zoned" is to follow my rules:
1) You don't have to be a nice guy just to impress your crush, the only way to make your relationship rise to your crush is to "be yourself"
2) Give him/her some space because it will get obvious that you're getting attached to her
3) Don't be so needy because your crush might feel irritated by you
4)Just chill
5) Lastly, let him/her think about you because the more you get mystery about yourself, the more your crush will rise up your relationship with him/her
If these tips won't work well, keep trying to follow these steps.
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