I remember the time back in my freshmen college life that I've been rejected by friends of how am I going to a conversation with them and got ignored about what am I going to say. I also experience unreplied messages or so-called "seen zone" on facebook, it's really disappointing me that waiting for a reply and get the result of unreplied message. I remember that I had a chat with my blockmates judged me directly through facebook and I got this "traumatic" situation that I didn't sleep on the rest of the after being judged.
When I got this traumatic issue after being rejected by someone, I read this articale called "The Science Behing Why Rejection Hurts So Much" by Hannah Loewentheil. On this article, it tells you that how will rejection can affect to your mind and your body.
According to Loewentheil "In fact, stress cardiomyopathy is the name of condition when heart muscles are weakened because of extreme stress."
It explains that when a person is broken hearted, it can give him/her an emotional stress by rejection and it can affects to his/her heart by weakening it. Most of us need to be socialized by someone because we need to survive in our life not only food and water.
According to Loewentheil, "Humans are social creatures: not only do we enjoy the company of others, but our ability to survive and reproduce throughout history has been dependant upon being part of the group."
I read another called "Why Great Ideas Get Rejected" by David Burkus. On this article, It tells the history of rejection on Igor Stavinsky who got unappreciated by his audience on his ballet play. It also that there four people divided into two groups of how they behave when they get criticized and rejected.
According to Burkus, "Regardless of how open-minded people are,they experience subtle bias against ideas when faced with uncertain situations."
It explains that people are now judgemental because they face of what they don't like. For example, not everyone appreciated the music video called "Judas" by Lady Gaga because christians find it offensive to them because of they thought that Lady Gaga was making fun of Jesus but the lyrics tells that to love the people you hate, so Lady Gaga made an example between Jesus and Judas that they must forgive Judas for being the most hated person.
Burkus also said that, "Thus, try leading clients toward your idea with a series of statements they agree with and pitching your idea as if it's theirs."
It explains that try to follow up the people's ideas on which is not offensive or which is interesting to them because if your creativity or your topic is offensive or boring, it might possible to get rejection.
I remember that after being rejected by others on the conversation that I feel like being unappreciated of become who I am and I know if you have the same situation you will feel that also,too. When I got rejected and after got experienced by that, the only I can do is to remain silence because if you keep on talking and forcing them to be in a group, the more rejection you will receive and it's going to get worse. Being an outcast wasn't so easy because sometimes you see all your classmates or your friends are taking pictures to each other and posting it on facebook, it feels like you've been abandoned by them.
If you have this situation, I suggest that try not to show your insecurities with them because the more you show your insecurities with them, the more they will give you more rejection. For example, I used to be envy with my blockmates that they're posted that they're to going to have a party night without me and when I saw them, I forced them to let me in the party but they refused to let me in because I wasn't invited and I got depressed after being uninvited to a party.
I remember also that my professor didn't approve my artwork because it was offensive and trashy looking. When I got home, I got this deep depression and I cried for having a low grade marks and I feel like to give up on arts but I didn't because my dad told me that not to give up because failure can also be learned and wondered of which details you made I mistake. When I got recovered on this pain, I made an effort to improve my work until I get the right thing and when I finished my work, I submitted it to my professor and got a high grade. The bottom line about my story is that, when you make a mistake try to improve it because each mistakes can be learned and I found out that a great man comes first from the mistake.
According to Loewentheil "In fact, stress cardiomyopathy is the name of condition when heart muscles are weakened because of extreme stress."
It explains that when a person is broken hearted, it can give him/her an emotional stress by rejection and it can affects to his/her heart by weakening it. Most of us need to be socialized by someone because we need to survive in our life not only food and water.
According to Loewentheil, "Humans are social creatures: not only do we enjoy the company of others, but our ability to survive and reproduce throughout history has been dependant upon being part of the group."
According to Burkus, "Regardless of how open-minded people are,they experience subtle bias against ideas when faced with uncertain situations."
It explains that people are now judgemental because they face of what they don't like. For example, not everyone appreciated the music video called "Judas" by Lady Gaga because christians find it offensive to them because of they thought that Lady Gaga was making fun of Jesus but the lyrics tells that to love the people you hate, so Lady Gaga made an example between Jesus and Judas that they must forgive Judas for being the most hated person.
Burkus also said that, "Thus, try leading clients toward your idea with a series of statements they agree with and pitching your idea as if it's theirs."
It explains that try to follow up the people's ideas on which is not offensive or which is interesting to them because if your creativity or your topic is offensive or boring, it might possible to get rejection.
I remember that after being rejected by others on the conversation that I feel like being unappreciated of become who I am and I know if you have the same situation you will feel that also,too. When I got rejected and after got experienced by that, the only I can do is to remain silence because if you keep on talking and forcing them to be in a group, the more rejection you will receive and it's going to get worse. Being an outcast wasn't so easy because sometimes you see all your classmates or your friends are taking pictures to each other and posting it on facebook, it feels like you've been abandoned by them.
If you have this situation, I suggest that try not to show your insecurities with them because the more you show your insecurities with them, the more they will give you more rejection. For example, I used to be envy with my blockmates that they're posted that they're to going to have a party night without me and when I saw them, I forced them to let me in the party but they refused to let me in because I wasn't invited and I got depressed after being uninvited to a party.
I remember also that my professor didn't approve my artwork because it was offensive and trashy looking. When I got home, I got this deep depression and I cried for having a low grade marks and I feel like to give up on arts but I didn't because my dad told me that not to give up because failure can also be learned and wondered of which details you made I mistake. When I got recovered on this pain, I made an effort to improve my work until I get the right thing and when I finished my work, I submitted it to my professor and got a high grade. The bottom line about my story is that, when you make a mistake try to improve it because each mistakes can be learned and I found out that a great man comes first from the mistake.
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