Blogpost #2: Social Rejection

Have you ever feel that you wanted to talk to someone on the cliques in school but no one reponded your topics? or how does it feel like being ignored by someone after you want to start a conversation? I've been observing this for a long time and it seems that being part of the "end-conversation zone" is like you don't belong with them. After being rejected on the conversation, you will get the result of depression,misbehaved,unappreciated and emotionally pain. 

Based on my experience, I've been though this pain since when I started in high school.  Back in my high school life, I forced the cliques or the "cool kids" to let me in the conversation because I wanted to be also the part of them but all they did just ignore me and walked away. I feel like being left unappreciated and I ended up to hate myself and to give up. When I became a college student, I managed to make friends but they didn't like me because they said that I'm boring and a pessmistic person or so called "emo". Everytime I talk to them on facebook, they will just see my message and ignore of what I'm telling to them or I can call it "seen zoned".

I read two articles about making  The first article is "How social rejection is experienced"by Rebecca Fraser-Thrill. In this article, it talks about there are three stages of depression. The first stage is "The immediate stage",  the author tells you that "When social rejection first occurs,tweens usually sharp physical pain."It explains that pain will affect your self-esteem, belonging, meaningful existence and control. The second stage is "The coping stage", it tells you that "If the social persists, the rejected tween moves into the coping or relective stage of rejection." It explains that if the rejection still continues, it can cause depression and emotionally pain. As the result this will end up to misbehave and give lack of social interaction for the society.Finally the third stage is "The long-term", the article tells you that if you keep on misbehaving , the more people will mistreat you.

The second that I read is "Study illuminates the pain of social rejection" by Ethan Kross who said that "Physical pain and intense feelings of social rejection hurt in the same way..." In this article, it tells you that rejection can be also affect to your mental health and will get active to the brain by the cause of distress and depression. The researcher made an experient by recruiting people who have experienced rejection or unwanted break-ups for their relationship. They showed a picture about their ex-partner and how the participants will behave. After the experiment, it shows that the mental health can get worse than physical pain.

According to Ethan Kross that "The study demonstrates the region of the brain that become active in response of painful sensory are activated during the intense of experiences of social rejection" I exactly agree with this quote because sometimes it's hard to concentrate on the present if your mind is active inside your brain thinking about why people rejected you in the conversation or why people don't like my personality. I think because I'm still not not used to talk to anyone and I'm still trying to improve my social skills but I suggest that you need to improve how you talk to others and how you behave. Rejection is like a mistakes, you learn from it. In order you to remove the pain  this might be helpful for you to overcome the pain after being rejected: If you still have a depression and an emotional pain, the best way to relieve is exercise because it can concentrates your mental health and it gives you the fast heartbeat to remove all the pain. After you excercise, write something what you did today like you just got home from the mall and you bought something that will make you happy or the best way is to talk to your parents and ask them for your help to solve your problems. Most of all, don't hate yourself because it can get more rejection and it can get worse. You're not the only person who have been rejected, there so many people have been rejected also so why don't look up and think of something that will make you happy and just smile.